Gaining a sense of belonging, a connection with the community, can be one of the hardest parts of relocation. Finding apartments and suitable school places, learning to navigate the local malls and supermarkets are all on the practical 'have to do' list. Once these have been accomplished, however, there remains the question, 'What about me?' 'Where do I fit into this new society?' 'What can Hong Kong offer me?' and possibly, 'What can I do for Hong Kong to make my time here more meaningful?'

Hong Kong has a wealth of opportunities for joining many clubs, associations and societies. Unique amongst these is The Helena May. The Helena May (THM) is one of the very few Hong Kong heritage buildings that is still used for its original purpose. It is an elegant, white clad building situated between Garden Road and Cotton Tree Drive. A few minutes up the hill are Hong Kong's Botanical Gardens; a few minutes down, St. John's Anglican Cathedral, both of which remain true to their historic origins. Despite sitting between two four lane roads, which move traffic constantly up and down from Central to Mid-Levels, The Helena May, with its newly restored garden and protected, mature trees, is a haven of peace and serenity.

THM was originally opened in 1916 by Lady Helena May, the wife of the then governor, Sir Henry May. With the rapid economic growth of Hong Kong and catastrophic war raging in Europe, more and more English ladies were coming out to Hong Kong to work in schools, businesses and other professions. Lady Helena May saw the need to make provision for these single ladies by providing a place where they could find suitable accommodation, English food and above all, friendship and companionship. Importantly, the ordinance states that the aim of the institute is 'to provide for the welfare of women and girls in Hong Kong.'

Amazingly, over 90 years after the doors first opened, The Helena May continues to fulfill its original aims. Whilst times have changed and single women no longer need to be chaperoned, the need for women to have a 'special' place to stay, share a meal, make friends and generally 'belong' has remained undiminished.

Today THM puts the 'welfare of women and girls' at the top of its agenda. There is a thriving outreach programme involving anything from Arts sponsorship for talented youngsters, picnic treats for underprivileged children and extensive support for elderly ladies in care. It has a strong relationship with the local Girl Guides and actively sponsors an 'English conversation' badge.

Central to THM is its colonial-style heritage building. This still provides single room accommodation for ladies as well as having studio flats available. The main building with its elegant Lounge and adjacent sitting rooms has kept its original style and mix of grandeur and comfort. First class food from the kitchens makes it a popular venue for lunch and dinner. One of the 'jewels in the crown' is the library. With over 25,000 books it is one of the largest and most comprehensive English libraries in Hong Kong.

Within THM there is both activity and a feeling of peace and calm. There are bridge, mahjong and book groups. Handicraft is a central feature with gatherings each month to make hats for chemotherapy patients and quilts to be sold to charity. There are numerous talks, presentations and outings as well as a varied programme of physical activities such as yoga and tai-chi. Many of these are open to non-members.

Relocating to such a diverse city as Hong Kong can be a daunting experience and it is important to find time to put 'me' on the list of things to do. Joining a club, meeting other people, both newcomers and those more settled in Hong Kong, helps to establish a sense of belonging to a community. Getting involved in outreach and becoming part of the heritage of Hong Kong makes a very good starting point.